Happy Valentine's Day! It's an interesting day isn't it? Whilst we can all agree that it's been widely commercialised there's no denying that it manages to get most of us in our feelings-especially if you have no valentine. Why?
I think it's because it's the one day that you are acutely aware that you are single hence this recent trend of it being known as 'singles awareness day'. Of course you may have been single the day before then and possibly the days to follow but theres just something about the 14th that brings your singleness to the fore. Even if you don't want to be reminded you just have to go to your local supermarket and of course social media to remember your status.
Some decide (understandably and sometimes not so) to be bitter about the whole day which requires way too much effort if you ask me whilst others mask their pain with humour via funny memes that they post. Some even 'pretend' not to be phased by the day whilst others genuinely don't care. Whichever camp you belong to, do you and do it well. All I'll say is that don't deceive yourself. It's actually fine if Valentine's Day evokes some kind of emotion in you, though I wouldn't recommend acting on all the emotions.
The irony of it all is when you're in a committed relationship/marriage, the day isn't so significant to you because you always strive to be intentional about the love you show your partner on any given day. I used to internally roll my eyes when people would say this but as I've gotten older I see that it's actually true. It really is only one day and if you allow it to rob you of your peace, whether you're in a relationship or not then take time to understand why.
If you're in a relationship the pressure can be there to want to 'do something' because everyone else seems to be. There may also be some who feel the need to 'validate' their love by posting their valentine's gift online and that's fine as long as your motive is right. It's a shame that in this day and age most things have become a competition and a 'keeping up with the Jones's' type of thing. Every relationship is different, and certainly all wallets are not equal. Don't go broke trying to compete with others all in the name of Valentine's Day.
Whichever side of the fence you are;single or not, have a lovely Valentine's Day and if nobody else has told you just know that you're beautiful and you are loved <3
Happy New Year! Considering that I haven't blogged since last year I can say that right? I decided to take time off in January for some self reflection before coming back to write.
How has this year been for you so far? So many of us begin with a bucketful of enthusiasm and then as the days pass on it unfortunately peters out. What happens then? Do we continue to muster up encouragement or feel as if it's too late and then wait for another new year before we implement the changes that we so desperately need right now?
My year started off better than last year though I can't say that I've been bowled over recently and to be honest I have nobody to blame but myself for that. It's not been all bad however as I feel that I'm going through a season of learning and unlearning things that I previously held so dearly. I'm at that point in life where I am trying to figure out what I want to do and also trying not to waste my time on pointless things. Health is wealth they say and I've admittedly fallen woefully short of that which kind of sucks but I think just taking life one day at a time is what I need.
The biggest thing I'm figuring out at the moment is my faith. It's more of a 'be still' moment and I've had to ask myself some deep questions such as 'Why do I believe what I believe?'. Nothing 'groundbreaking' happened for me to reach such a point but I welcome it because I think it's needed at times to truly appreciate the relationship you have with God. One thing that hasn't changed at the core is my relationship with God and I'm more interested in investing in that than being caught up in the peripherals and watching other people and their interpretations of God.
I often struggle with thinking about my future and I have this annoying ability to be anxious and impatient as I want to know what will happen now and I want it now which is ridiculous as life does not work that way. Through all of this, a part of me has been tempted to just stop blogging for a while but I've decided to continue as a means of keeping me 'together' if that makes sense? Writing has always been a way for me to pen my thoughts and vent if need be. Going forward I'll be writing from a more self reflective point of view and if you're interested you're more than welcome to stick around and if not, it's all good either way. I'm doing this for me more than anyone else and it'll help me in navigating the myriad emotions I have that I'm always keeping to myself.
I hope you all have a great week and even if the year didn't start off the way you wanted it to it's ok. Make the most of the upcoming months and do what you can to make them count!